Tuesday, December 30, 2008
DanceMInd: Dear Janie: WInter Season
Well, all the Nutcrackers and Winter season performances are over. It is time to stretch out the feet and enjoy a few days off through New Years. Along with being with family and friends, or even if you are alone, your mind still dances.
It may be a good time to review what you want and need to do over the upcoming year. Writing it down is a good idea because it materializes your desires, and offers a place for reference.
It is easy to just float aimlessly without any real direction.
Most dancers work very hard in the present moment, have dreams of the future and lose the 'meat,' or process in between. This is where the true growth and action lay. Breaking it down into pieces gives you a path for change. Using visualizations strengthens and moves the process along more quickly too.
There are many paths to becoming a professional dancer. A one point focus is mandatory. You have to want it. Breathe it. Demand it. Do not take NO for answer.
I spoke with a Mom recently who was crying because her son was not invited to a prestigious dance program. She brought him in for counseling thinking he had self sabotage.
Through our work, He has realized that he prefers a smaller company where there is a manageable balance of stress and continued opportunity for lead roles. He has been working beyond his limits, though injuries and rejection.
Because he was given a 'no' does not mean that he has defined himself by the no. His determination is even stronger because he has realized his direction and clarified where he wants to dance and how. Nice.
Everyone's path is a little different. The male dancer took this No as an opportunity to get to know what is important to him. So a no can be a YES!
If you have some time in the next few days, do some writing about what you want, what has become important to you over the last year and of course, your dreams.
Happy New Year all around the World!
Sanna Carapellotti, MS CHT
PS - I just finished an article for Dancer Magazine on How to Stop Smoking Using Your Mind Power. Feb issue.